So I posted a letter on the Miss Jia blog from Mashonda who is the wife of producer, Swizz Beatz. In it, she basically tells Alicia Keys that she “knows what she did” regarding the dissolution of her marriage to Swizz.

What I am most surprised at are the responses in which folks are telling her to ‘let it go.’ Seriously, people? Yes, her relationship with Swizz may very well be over and that may be well and good for Alicia. But how many of you would be so quick to let it go if someone basically played a relationship out in your face? The one thing that I don’t agree with in Mashonda’s letter is that she didn’t really address Swizz. That’s another topic in my opinion. But one thing I can’t stand is a woman (and trust, there are MANY out there) who sits in your face and plots on your dude. If the guy wants to leave, he can go…it truly is what it is but for one chick to disrespect another chick on the strength of some peen is ridiculous to me. There are too many free agents in the world for a person to worry about someone who has already been drafted.

I also read a comment that stated (and I’m paraphrasing) ‘you can’t help who you fall in love with.” Says who? Now, if I meet a guy and he doesn’t disclose that he’s already taken, then at that point, I am loving him under the false pretense that he’s single. However, if he discloses to me that he is indeed involved and I choose to not only date him but allow the relationship to grow so that I do fall in love with him, then I’ve made a choice…and that choice is to love a man that I know can not fully belong to me.

Some of you women need to stop being so damn simple. Things are always gravy until the shit happens to you. At that point, you’re not so forgiving, are you?

I have been on both sides of the fence…no, I have NEVER helped a guy cheat on his girl (and trust, NEVER WILL). However, I have been that chick that got cheated on and the girl KNEW he and I were together. Yes, I got mad at him but I was also angry with her b/c even if you don’t really know me or owe me anything, social responsibility should teach you otherwise. As we learned in kindergarten, you don’t touch shit that doesn’t belong to you. You simple women should also keep in mind that the way you obtained a man can also be the same way you lose him. Not so pretty when that shoe fits the other foot…

I also can’t say that I fully stand behind Mashonda’s way of expressing her anger but how many of you participate in blog discussions (be they personal or entertainment affiliated) when someone’s gossip has been put on blast? What about sites that thrive, like DontDateHimGirl.com or JustDontWifeHer.com? Those types of things exist b/c of someone else being put on blast. If Mashonda felt that she had to write to clear the air so that she feels better about her own situation, who are we to judge? I get tired of people telling other people how to handle their emotions. This isn’t the break up of a little summer fling that took place by happenstance; this is the dissolution of a marriage that, according to Mashonda, was triggered by infidelity between her husband and an artist that she once respected.

In a couple of years, some of you will be married (if you’re not already). I pray that your relationships last forever without any issues (especially that of infidelity). But if for some reason your partner steps out and you were one of the ones saying “let it go,” I’d love to be emailed on how you chose to handle it. Again…kindergarten lessons meant something. Keep your hands to yourself b/c some things just ain’t worth being touched, especially if it does NOT belong to you!

Another quick message before I go shower this funk off…

As I’ve gotten a “WEE” bit more knowledgeable of the (entertainment) blogging game, one thing that I am learning QUICK is that everybody doesn’t think like I do.

Before I even thought of doing a celebrity entertainment blog, I researched. Yea, it’s human nature for you to want to run to the nearest guru of _____ and ask a million questions if it’s a subject that’s new to you. Now, I’m not saying that NO other blogger did this but I looked at as many aspects of blogging as I could on my own before I started asking questions. I learned in school many years ago that if you don’t look for certain things on your own, allowing yourself to become as knowledgeable about whatever it is that you’re pursuing, then you’re rendering yourself useless to you.

As I said a few days ago in a previous entry, I get asked questions all the time and because I know that “I” had questions, I don’t mind answering them. But I literally grit my teeth when I get asked simple things such as “what blog platform should I use, where do I get pictures from, etc., etc., etc” when those things (plus much more) are available via google.

Now trust me…you’ll never see me be a bitch about it. One thing I can’t stand is an indignant ass ANYTHING that thinks that just b/c they “made it” (which I have not yet…trust me), they have to look down their noses at those who are still trying. But I’m reminded of an old Chinese (I THINK?) proverb:

And it works the same in blogging…if I simply GIVE you answers without you putting in any research of your own, you’ll only learn to come back to me (or another blogger) the next day or the next month with questions regarding your next move. However, if I encourage you to FIRST research on your own, learn about what it is that you’re doing before diving head first into it, then I feel that you’re being empowered for your own future as blogger. Again, asking questions is not the problem…but not trying to find the answer on your own first is.

PS: Please note…I have been blogging since 2004. This is, however, my first time taking the entertainment route and while I’m still learning (much to many people’s disbelief), I still believe in empowering yourself to learn as much as you can BEFORE reaching out to ask questions. No offense meant…I’m just calling it as I see it.

Another day complete. When I tell you I’m tired…

I guess I say that everyday but you guys have to understand that this workout is NO JOKE! I’m in love with it though.

I didn’t sleep well today, so I may just make a store run for some benadryl…something to get me to sleep at a decent hour.

Tomorrow I’m going to try and do my workouts (yes…with an “s” b/c tomorrow, there’s TWO work outs, courtesy of Shaun T.) early so that I can have some sushi with one of my friends that’s in town.

I smell…bad. Talk to you later.

LOVE these days. Basically, Shaun takes you through a series of yoga positions to stretch your body/muscles b/c you’re working your body SO HARD during the week. He also does little pulses of squats and lunges to make sure you’re still getting a workout.

As I stated yesterday, I have officially lost 7 lbs and it’s day 10. Could be more (weighed myself last on day 8…) but I’m not going to weigh myself again for a while. I initially said at day 30 but now, I’m thinking I’d much rather wait until the whole program is over and weigh myself.

10 days doesn’t sound like a lot but to do 10 days in a ROW when most people aren’t getting off their ass twice a week? I’d say that’s nothing minor. No matter how many people clown, I am proud of myself. I have goals. I LOVE LOVE LOVE Insanity! I curse him out (both in my head and out loud) as it’s going on but I am very happy with it all. I feel so at home doing interval training! I think that I may even do another round of it once I’m done…depends on my results. I thought that I would have to get a personal trainer to get this type of training. I know I sound like a sales person right now but it REALLY is a solid program. HA!

Anyway, tomorrow is day 11. Go me!! Sunday is my OFFICIAL day off from Insanity but I think I’m going to go swimming and for a run just to keep me in the mode! Good luck to you guys!

I swear everytime I turn around, somebody has a blog these days. I remember when I started blogging back in 2004, it was mainly for the purpose of having a diary that my then boyfriend couldn’t throw away (as we lived together). I had a lot of shit going on that I had to get off my chest and just felt that blogging would be a ‘private’ way for me to talk about my issues without worrying about his (or many other’s) prying eyes. But then people started finding my blog…and it built a following. Almost convinced me that my life was interesting then. ha!

Just recently, my homegirl hit me up and told me that she’s starting a blog, White Girl Gone Crazy (she’s working on it) and I’m sure it’ll be interesting b/c her Myspace blogs were always the business. But daily, I get emails from folks asking HOW to start an entertainment blog.

What’s funny about me is INITIALLY, I was turned away when I asked questions. This wasn’t necessarily done by Bloggers but I just felt that it was best that Google to learn and then whatever answers I didn’t get there, I would proceed to ask those who had been in the game a while. The funny thing is that there are SOME people who are so afraid of someone possibly being just as successful as them (if not moreso) that they either feed you bullshit or don’t answer you at all. Jealousy and stinginess is such an UGLY thing. I aspire to help people WHEN I CAN but sometimes, it’s the simple shit that folks ask me that kinda makes me wonder how cut out for blogging they are. There is nothing wrong with asking questions but there is something wrong with not taking some initiative. Trust me, no matter how nice anyone is, nobody is going to hold your hand through the entire process unless you’re talking dough.

I’m going to email this guy and ask him if I could post his “How To’s” on my blog and if he gives me the go (with full credit to him, of course), I will post them each day for you guys to read and take in. By the time I read it, I was on the verge of launching Miss Jia but they were still very helpful.

I said all that to say…take some initiative guys and gals. If it’s something you genuinely don’t know or can’t find the answer to, then yea…ask questions. But if you just thought it up in your head and haven’t put any real effort into finding an answer for yourself, then that’s a problem. How long do you think your blog will last if someone else is doing the work FOR you?

…certified.

I don’t think that it’s something to brag about but it is what it is. Although I recognize that this may not be considered an endearing quality to the masses, being a bitch is sometimes necessary. There are people in life who purposely try you just to see how far they can push before you give. And I am starting to believe that there are some people out there who purposely push my buttons just to get cursed the fuck out.

So today, I am going to stop. I’m going to ignore the shit talkers, the backstabbers, the REAL haters (b/c correcting your spelling on a shitty magazine cover doesn’t qualify as hating at all), the liars, the story creators…all that.

The bottom line is…I have things going on. A lot. Just because I choose not to disclose my blessings doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. I am in the process of trying to establish certain relationships with certain people, so the last thing I need is the label of a girl that will go HAM on your ass if you get out of line. Make no mistakes…I still won’t be disrespected. But arguing with these idiots on the internet doesn’t make me any money. Aww, my sexy boo, Lisa Wu said it too…if it doesn’t make me money, I don’t do it.

Some people crave attention and because I find breaking some of these fools down to be quite hilarious, I tend to cave and give it to them. But no more…real talk. I promised someone via email that I would control my tongue and continue pressing on. Tonight, I broke that promise. I was then reminded via message of a dream that I had around the time when I first started my blog and that person reminded me of that dream…a nice reminder to keep doing me, ya know?

So it ends here, bitches. The internet is suppose to be a hobby for me…why waste it on those that are considered minuscule in the grand scheme of things?

j.

I really can’t believe I made it through another day of this. I had to go to Walmart to buy some muscle cream stuff to go on the inner areas of both of my calves b/c those fuckers are a bit sore. I am sweaty, I am STANK and I still have to eat dinner (that’s something I have to get a handle on). I just happened to be on the phone with my homies MsStylistik and MF213 and they were like “Bitch you might as well eat a salad if you’re eating this late. So that’s exactly what I’m having…a small salad with chicken on top and pineapples. WATER!

Oh to those that were curious…when I got on the scale this morning (as SOON as I woke up), I was .5 lb lighter. So that makes 7 lbs in 9 days. I’m NOT going to weigh myself anymore for a while. I’ll at least wait until day 30 before I weigh myself again.

Nonetheless, all is well. But for now, it’s shower time!

Hey if you have Insanity or any workout, feel free to post in the comments area and tell me about your day. I’m all ears….

j.

Another day completed! To be quite honest with you, I really didn’t feel like working out today. I had a headache earlier and had been running around almost all day. By the time I got home, I wanted to take a nap but since I didn’t blog at the Miss Jia blog, I decided to stay up and do at least three posts.

Nonetheless, I posted on Twitter that I went to put on my rings last night and they literally slid off my hand. I assumed that since my PMS came and went that the ‘water weight’ I get during that time was the culprit (for them being tighter). Well after my workout today, I decided to get naked and hop on the scale. It said that I lost 6.5 lbs! I thought…wait, lemme try this again. Got off, got back on…same thing. I couldn’t believe it. That’s a LOT of weight to lose in a week. Honestly, I think that most of it is either water weight OR if it is such a loss, it’s b/c I’m probably not eating as much as I SHOULD in a day. I have been drinking so much damn water that by the time it IS time for me to get my grub on, I am damn near full! But Insanity is a very intense program. Extremely intense. To any of you who played sports during your school years, I’m sure that your coach put you through drills that left you panting for air before you were even midway through. Well, Insanity does the same thing PLUS kicks it up two notches. Shaun T. doesn’t play and I’m excited about tomorrow’s workout.

My goal is to be a size 7. I really don’t give a shit how much weight I lose b/c the # has never been a ‘thing’ for me. I only have a scale in my house NOW because I started some new birth control a while back and wanted to keep track of any weight gain. Thankfully there wasn’t any (but I also stopped b/c I heard about the damn blood clots and heffas dying just to keep the babies away. Not a fair trade if you ask me). Anyway, I’m determined to be a size 7. Anything smaller than that wouldn’t look right on me b/c I have a big head…and fat cheeks that don’t go away no matter how much I work out.

People have been asking me if you could do Insanity if you are not use to working out. Quite frankly, you can do whatever you want to do. I just think that if you aren’t use to some level of activity in your life, you’ll probably injure yourself on this program. Shaun T. emphasizes speed and agility with these work outs. You have to do a LOT of quick movements and again, if you’re not USE to working out, you will fuck something up…thus meaning you’d have to quit anyway. If you’re looking for something to do UNTIL you get use to working out, I suggest Slim in 6. I will warn you…Debbie Siebers is boring as hell. I literally want to slap her ass with a bag of “personality” and a side of “damn-be-charismatic-please” but…the workout works. Now, I did that before and made it through the whole 6 weeks. I didn’t weigh myself at the time but I do remember that overall, I lost like 20 inches. Not bad. Anyway I recommend trying that before shelling out a whopping $160 for Insanity. It’d be shitty to get it and not be able to use it to the best of your ability. But again, it’s up to you!

Day 9 tomorrow and I can’t wait to go INSANE!!

Done.

I did Slim in 6 this morning…and Insanity just now. I swear, I’m be a beast when it’s over.

@Stephony! Don’t do Insanity more than once a day. TRUST ME, you will burn yourself out!

Finished.

Tomorrow is suppose to be my day off (b/c I started on Tuesday) BUT I’m gonna just start with week 2 tomorrow so that THIS coming Sunday can be my day off. Goodness…does it get any easier? I hope so!

I had a SERIOUS adrenaline rush during today’s workout (Hmm…I wonder why?). Tomorrow is day 7 of INSANITY!

@Stephony: I see in another comment that you got the DVD set? I swear Beach Body needs to pay a bitch b/c I have had about 7 people get the set!! That’s a GRAND for them! Pssh LMAO Nah but let me know how it goes for you and remember…..