There’s only so much that you can say on this topic, so I’ll keep it brief.
Everyday I get emails via Facebook, my business email, etc., asking for advice regarding specific personal situations going on in someone else’s life. In some cases, I’ll post the answer on my blog (if they request it) but in the majority of cases, I’ll send a personal response giving my thoughts on their dilemma.
A few dozen times, I’ll receive a thank you but in quite a few scenarios, I’ve received an argument back that basically refutes any advice I’ve had to offer.
What did you email me for? And that leads me to this…..
I’m being a typical “crab” today. I am absolutely in my shell, hiding out a little bit. I am, without question, living up to my Cancer-like ways. For the record, I’m not hiding from anyone. I’m pretty much retreating to figure out where my emotional boundaries lie.
If you think you’ve got it, check out the information after the break! EVERY DETAIL I KNOW IS POSTED ALREADY. Please do NOT ask me any questions. I saw the post in one of my networks and now I’m sharing it with you. Hardheads will be ignored and shaded like shit, FYI.
It’s that time again. Over the past two weeks or so, I’ve seen a lot. I can’t say that I’ve “learned” a lot because much of the things that have taken place were nothing more than lessons revisited. These are things that I either learned on my own or through my parents and somehow disregarded them. Never again. Seriously. I’m too old to be playing nappy headed reindeer games with some of you people.
That’s a question that you hear often when a relationship (or “situation”) has ended due to someone else’s misconduct or negligence.
One thing that I will say about myself is that it took me YEARS to learn how to be a friend. I’m still not perfect and have my days where I just don’t feel like being bothered with anyone (Hey…blame the #Cancer in me). I shut things out and I just do me for a day (or three). That doesn’t mean I don’t care at all. But check me out this time three to five years ago and you probably wouldn’t have wanted to fuck with me.
Because I NOW know what it’s like to not only be neglected as a friend but to also do a lot of the hurt and betraying AS a friend, I hold my friends in pretty high regard. If I call you a friend, consider yourself special b/c it’s not a title that I hand off without regard and it definitely can take a while for someone to earn it.
So why is it that when someone seems to go out of their way (in a relationship) to treat you as though you’re less than human, as though they wouldn’t think twice about you if you were to die tomorrow…that they ask you when you finally decide to let it go….“Can we at least still be friends?”
Very rarely do I talk about my relationships. Yes, every now and then, I might hit you guys with the hee on a bad sexual “fling,” but when it’s time to dish about someone that I’m actually involved in a relationship with or at least getting to know, I rarely speak on it. It’s cute to bring up the “little” things every now and then (mainly for the amusement of your friends watching your blush) but it never goes beyond small talk. I have a reason.
I think that loyalty and love are scarce these days. No matter what type of man or woman you may be, no matter your sexual preference, there seems to be a lack of general respect when it comes to like, love and involvement.