So I’m sitting here bored and figured I’d update my personal blog. I want to try and remain consistent with it b/c it’s always been fun and therapeutic in a sense for me.

I think that we all have rules that we abide by when it comes to how we govern our relationships (be it friendship or romantic) and life in general. In no random order, I’d like to list a few of mine. These will mainly be pertaining to friendships because those have been on my mind a lot lately. So here goes nothing…

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I don’t even know where to begin with this but I’ll just dig in. Some folks will “get it,” others of you…it’ll fly over your head with no surprise on my end.

There is a huge difference between being a blogger and a journalist. For one, (most) bloggers don’t have a degree in journalism/mass communication. Second, bloggers are people who have created a website to provide their opinion. Yea, believe it or not, we’re still entitled to those.

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First, lemme say…if you emailed me today and your name begins with a “T” (I think?) and you were inviting me to a conference, mentioned Clutch, etc., please resend your email. I got it while I was driving and said that I would answer you later when I was back at a computer. Now I can’t find you and don’t want you to think that I’m ignoring you :O( FOUND IT!!!!

Alright, now…I feel like having a bit of a(nother) bitchin’ moment. If you don’t like that side of me, please exit the blog now. Further, if you feel like you’ve heard it before, you might wanna go bye bye too. Lawd…

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I know that we said that we’d let go of the word but I wanted to speak on it a bit.

I was having a conversation with a girlfriend of mine over lunch a few days ago. She was saying that since she started her new business, it seems that a lot of the people that she once thought were friends have now began targeting her, talking shit behind her back, not returning phone calls, etc. And then she said, “It’s cool. Haters keep me motivated.”

I’m sure that we’ve heard someone say this before or hell…we may have even said it ourselves. There are many things that motivate me but miserable, self loathing people do not.

From where I’m standing, “haters” are generally people who are miserable within their own skin…they’re unhappy with their lives, their jobs, the fact that they only sit back and watch others ‘do’ while they wait for opportunities to fall in their lap. It doesn’t “motivate” me to see a person be so miserable. What motivates me is my desire to be greater than the past that people THINK precedes me. What motivates me is knowing that I, too, deserve to be happy. What motivates me is my own desire to be successful and have the things in life that I want. I’m nowhere near close to where I want to be but you mean to tell me that just as I am finally beginning to see a light at the end of my tunnel, I should thank and attribute all my motivation to someone that didn’t want to see me successful in the first place?

I get it…but I don’t get it.

I’m not an extremely religious person. I’m faithful and have my own relationship with God that I don’t feel the need to detail with anyone. And that is what allows me to pray for people who are so discontent with their own lives that they can’t stand to see someone else as the victor. I’m motivated my own damn self. I’ve seen enough brokeness to maintain my own motivation. I don’t need “haters” to help me with that. I have old bank statements, memories of being hungry and damn near on the street, and my own former demons to remind me to do my best.

I guess whatever works to motivate you, go for it. But you’ll never see me offering up a plate of “thanks” to a miserable, no plan having ass heathen. “Hate” me from afar…I have mountains to climb.

So it’s 4:34 am and I am seriously on my way to sleep. I am over at a (female) friend’s house after a night of acting a pure fool and allowing Patron to take over our minds. I really should take it down before driving myself back home.
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It’s time for me to post all random and what not, since I haven’t done it in a while. It won’t be very much. I just know that I have been neglecting my personal blog, so I might as well get it in now, huh?

–I am so crunk about my trip to New York next month! Been on this earth for almost 30 damn years and have not been to New York a day in my life. I’ve been to DC, Jersey…never New York! I’m excited! *insert smiley face with BIG tooth grin here*

–Atlanta is finally getting back to a sense of normalcy on weather. It’s no longer super cold when you step outside and that’s a good thing too. I was getting worn out with a cold…then sinus infection WITH a cold that’s clearing up. Clearly not a good season for me.

–I really need to begin making plans for my birthday this year. I’ve talked things over and said what I would LIKE to do this year…but as far as making 100% official plans? Hasn’t happened. I’m going to really sit down and get it together, pronto!

–Straight hair? Curly hair? I can’t figure it out…

–I’ve never been a sneaker type chick but I have this urge to buy several pairs. No particular reason…it’s just an urge. Someone needs to help me with picking out dope ones. Anybody?

–Cuddle season is almost over and I’ve survived yet ANOTHER season without a buddy. lol!

–Pomegranate lemonade is the business. I think the brand is Minute Maid and it comes in a clear container. Get up on it, PLEASE!

–Tattoos…so addicting.

–So I elected to have Pants On the Ground as my ringtone on my celly, right? Why is it that every time my phone rings, I get startled…like I didn’t know that this was my ringtone?

–Did I mention that I was crunk about New York next month? YAY!

–OH, I get to see my Brandelah too. I have not seen her since what…Usher’s 8701 album. That was a WHILE ago!

–Absolutely time for a fill in. Now that I am not coughing my lungs out every two seconds, I MUST get Poochie on these hands. These things look a hot mess!!

–School? #deathame

–I am grateful.

–That is all!

j.

Question: how do we go about ‘exposing’ something that’s transparent?

Nice try, though! Happy Monday, everybody! #BONG