I was browsing my subscriptions on Youtube a few minutes ago and was watching a vloggers vid regarding homosexuality and how straight people have a tendency to believe that if a gay person is around, then said gay person automatically wants them. He goes on to talk about many straight people’s perception that all gay men (or women) are desperate and just happen to fall for anyone, be it that they’re gay or straight.

Nonetheless, as I was watching his video, I noticed in the ‘related’ area of Youtube, there were a ton of videos related to gay porn. Now, I do NOT watch porn at all but I was curious to see just how far Youtube would allow posters to go. I clicked on one of the links and it was a pretty in-depth preview of the actual vid but it stopped before it led to the actual sex. The title of the website had the word “blog” in it, so I thought “Hmm…maybe this person WRITES about homosexual porn but it probably isn’t a full on porn site.” I was wrong. I clicked on this blog and it was truly a VERY homosexual site with quite a few attractive brothas on it.

Before I ask the question, let me say that I am NOT…nor will I EVER BE…one of those women that says “OMG…he is too cute to be gay! What a waste!!” I think that’s an ignorant statement b/c it’s almost as though you’re saying that all attractive or semi-attractive men should be straight, while all the uglies should be homosexual. I always want to say “But what if his fine was indeed straight…that doesn’t mean that he wants YOU!” I digress.

Anyway, I scrolled through the site and looked at some of these guys and had to wonder…are these guys REALLY gay OR are the gay for pay?

Do you believe that there is a such thing as being gay for pay…or if you sleep with someone of the same sex, are you just gay….do not pass the rainbow colored “GO” sign, do not collect 200 anal beads?

What do you think?

–For clarity…I asked if they were really gay or just ‘gay for pay’ b/c my knowledge of the industry (and possibly your assumption) is that a LOT of people involved will do whatever, just to get that bread. I am not asking this question b/c I thought “Nah…he COULDN’T be gay!”

Oh and for the curious, the website was Raw Rods Blog. It is NOT work safe! You’ve absolutely been warned!

I posted an article on my non-profit website, Project New Era, regarding a little boy who was gunned down on Halloween b/c he was thought to be a burglar. One of my readers posted the comment below:

When you spend (hopefully) a lot of time teaching children never to talk to/trust a stranger and then walk them to a total stranger’s door and to take FOOD from them,- that makes no sense!

And if it did not make perfect sense. I personally do not celebrate Halloween b/c of what “I” think it stands for. Besides that, I don’t like the idea of being out in public with a bunch of people with masks and disguises on b/c you just never know. Yes, I’m a bit paranoid but oh well. It’ll keep me safe (and my kids too). The above quote makes perfect sense b/c as parents, I’m sure that most of you teach your children that it’s not okay to talk to strangers. My parents did the same thing. But on Halloween, you make an exception. You dress your kids up, take them from door to door in various neighborhoods…so that they can ask strangers for candy and treats. If, by some strange occurrence, I decide to take my kids out to enjoy the “holiday,” it will be 100% organized…at a church, at a friend’s home, or even an event that I create myself for kids to come into my HOME and get lots of candy and goodies. Fuck taking some candy from people’s house! You don’t know if people are CLEAN anyway. I remember my mom use to inspect EVERY piece of candy we got before she even allowed us to LOOK at it. Who the hell wants to go through all that? Not me….

Same goes with Christmas. You teach your children that lying is not okay, be it a little white one or otherwise. But yet, you spend year after year, saying that Santa brought this or Santa brought that…only to disclose years later that Santa doesn’t exist (i.e., “I lied”). What kinda bullshit is that?

Further, I’m not giving an imaginary person credit for me busting my ass 40+ hours a week to bring delight to my children’s faces. Please. I will explain the meaning of Christmas to my child and the story of Santa Claus, but he/she/they will know that mommy bought their new shit…not some jolly old white guy that we don’t even know truthfully existed!

Anyway, parents…contradictions.

Everybody knows that the economy is bad right now. There are a ton of people who have either been laid off or fired and haven’t managed to pick back up and find another job.

However, I am finding that many people are using the failing economy as an excuse so that they don’t really “have” to go out and get work.

One thing I’ve never been able to care much for was a lazy ass dude. Here is a bit of background as to why. My father, for as long as I can remember, has always been employed with the same company. He was fortunate to never experience any layoffs or anything of that nature. Also, he was in the military, so that was always extra income. I never grew up “wanting” for anything. But I will say that my father would bust his ass doing any and everything to ensure that his family didn’t go without.

What happened to those days? Everytime I turn around, I am finding that a lot of people (but this will be primarily directed at dudes since this is the gender that I date) are saying “Man the economy is so fucked up! I can’t find shit.”

No, you can find SOMETHING, just maybe not what you want at the time. All money is green to me. Sure there are a few strange things that should not be attempted to make a little bit of change. But if most of your time is spent sitting on your ass, not even turning on the computer to look at sites like craigslist.org, careerbuilder.com, hotjobs.com, etc., then how on earth to expect to exhume yourself from the rubbage? Jobs don’t “look” for you; you have to apply yourself and go after a job. And if the shit that you want is not readily knocking on your door, then the grocery store, fast food restaurants and even gas stations are ALWAYS hiring. It may not be what you want but the electric, cell and apartment/mortgage companies want to be paid.

I think that a lot of people are using the failing economy as a crutch. But I see straight through many of you and that crutch is about to break on your ass. Again, I am not trying to sound insensitive b/c I keep up with the news just like everyone else. But when I think of my dad…my parents, PERIOD…and how they made it happen at all costs, I find it hard to create an excuse for any young person who lacks ambition. That’s all it is is a lack of drive and ambition.

Lemme tell you…any 9 to 5 I have is not going to be something I want. I’ve begrudgingly worked all colors of the rainbow and depending on the day, you MIGHT have gotten a smile from me. The point is, I did what I had to do to make sure I keep my head above water. But if you are just sitting at home on your ass, logging onto Myspace, watching TV and complaining about what “ain’t” but are not TRYING to make an “is” or a “could be,” then you ain’t shit. Period.

To those of you out there who are really trying and really putting forth an effort to make it happen, you have my applause and may God bless you soon!

But to you others (and trust, you know who you are), stop using the world’s outside, inside and everything in between as an excuse for your problems. Look at yourself! You’re playing the same ole record and the shit broke a long time ago!

The END!

Tuesday is the day to go out and vote. I’m not sure why many of you haven’t taken advantage of early voting (if it is available to you).

What’s even more annoying is when I watch TV and see that there are still people who are undecided on who it is that they’re voting for. WTF? If you don’t know by now, your ass just needs to have a seat and not even try to vote. Have you not been watching TV at all?

Anyway, seriously people…voting day is always a hectic day. It’s a headache for EVERYONE involved. But I am begging you…if you are able to vote, get out there and vote. If you don’t have a ride, opt for public transportation or even check the internet for your areas voter transportation service. Almost every city usually has them. This has been the most important, historical voting season and of course, you want to be a part of history, right?

Don’t miss out! Stand up and be counted!

If you’re 18 or 118, get your ass out there and VOTE on Tuesday, November 4th!

…and when it does, I get to acting stupid.

I dunno what my fascination is with personal ads. I think that one day, I was browsing Craigslist and found the area called “The Best Of.” In that, they had all types of hilarious ads that had me bawled over in pain from laughing so hard. Many of those ads were personal ads. After a while, I became obsessed with finding these ads myself and submitting them to the site for the Best Of edition.

Anyway, so I’m browsing today and found THIS little gem. Can anyone tell me what’s wrong? Allow me…this dude thinks he’s slick; trying to convince some chick that he’s truly ready to settle down but all throughout the post, he’s talking about getting out of Chicago. And it doesn’t stop there. He lays on the line of “looking for someone who moves fast,” aka: Would you be willing to let me move to Georgia, stay with you, and play relationship until I get my shit together?

I be damned. But I betchu everything I’m worth that there are mad females who are responding to this man’s ad b/c there are MANY women in Atlanta who want to be boo’ed up and will accept someone just ‘getting it together’ just to say that they have someone.

And then THIS guy. SMH. First off, I can’t stand people who apparently take camera phone pics of pics. Bad quality camera phone pics at that. But, is that not Bow Wow’s 13/14 year old pics? I mean, word? So dudes swagger jack on pics like females do? Wow! Who woulda thunk!? Talkin’ ’bout “I Look DUMB Good!” Nah, negro…you just look dumb. Sitcho’ Ass Down!

Personal ads crack me the hell up! Be on the look out for more as I find them.

PS: Is 50 Cent serious when he says “There’s never been a mogul like me?” Don’t make me page Diddy!

From a photographic stand-point, this is an amazing shot.

From a regular chick stand-point, I am absolutely green. Moreso than T.I.’s shirt.

I’m so jelly!