I just wanted to send more congrats out to the homie, Brook, for landing a publishing deal and will be releasing her first book in February! I am especially happy because I am a faithful reader of her blog and one of her followers on Twitter. I’ve watched in disgust how some folks have tried to play her to the left and dismissed her as a chick who couldn’t do more than working a pole. In spite of how many may prejudge, the fact is there are tons of intelligent women out there who involve themselves in things that you may not agree with but at the end of the day, there’s usually more to them than meets the eye (and I say usually because there’s still a TROTH of dumb bitches in the industry who wouldn’t ‘get it’ if you stuck it in their ass and screwed them with it). As I said last night, you shouldn’t pigeon hole people. Period. A girl works a non-conventional job, you’re mad and disrespect her because of it. A girl puts forth the effort to change, to have better and BE better and you get busy with throwing daggers at her in an effort to diminish her belief in herself just because YOU don’t want to see the vision. Miserable people, I tell ya. But it takes a strong, brave bitch to continue rising against the magnetic force that tries to hold her down! Who mad?

Congratulations, Brook…see you at the top!

The sweat ain’t no joke! I’m so serious. I literally fell out on the bathroom floor when I was done! Shaun T. needs to go to hell calling that first 15 minutes a damn warm up! That warm up IS a work OUT! It was a lot of cardio, lots of upper body training using your own body weight. Very cool. I think I fucked up my water bottle b/c I clearly had two of them during the entire 40 minute workout. Oh and to those wondering about the FULL body pics, trust…I got them. You’ll just have to wait and see!

I’ve said it before but here it goes again…if it’s in your budget, get the Insanity DVD set. I know it’s only been three days for me but I’ve watched the set and he REALLY pushes you through. I own a LOT of DVD sets from late night TV watching but this one, SO FAR, is the best one I’ve ever purchased.

On to tomorrow…but for now, a bath + salt!

PS: Someone asked me why did I name this blog ’she so fly.’ Trust me, I ain’t tooting my own horn. I got it from that song that R. Kelly did with T-Pain & T.I…in one part of the song, T-Pain says “She so fly, she so cool…hey shawty, what it do?” Anyway, during the time that the song was hot, I use to KILL that part of the song. I’d walk around randomly singing JUST THAT part and my homegirl said “Bitch it’s more to the song than that.” HA! It’s just been my “thing” so I did it b/c I’m silly (and I know it annoys the fuck outta her everytime she comes to my blog HA!!!).

Oh and PSS or PPS (depending on your pref.)…I don’t go for ‘cute’ when I work out. I could give a damn about being cute in some after workout photos. I’m silly…I ain’t prissy. Get over it! POW!

Can’t wait til this airs. The shit that Mary Carey says at the 32 second + mark is the REALEST! Towards the end, Jamie says that she would’ve made the same thing doing a scene that she made if she was still on Family Matters. So…they paid her $400-1000/episode? If so, she got played b/c I KNOW Urkel was getting much more than that.

The industry is bullshit, folks. And I don’t say that b/c I can’t…I say that b/c I choose. HUGE difference.

On a sidenote…if you’ve never had any real perceptions of what it is to have a friend in your life, the industry will teach you real quick. Aside from what I stated in my previous entry, I recall a very specific incident where I was at a ‘house’ party. At that time, I was heavily involved in popping (x) pills. I’m not talking light weight taking one once every blue moon. I’m talking about waking up, brushing my teeth and popping them almost all day like they were candy. Anyway, at the party, I remember taking a pill that was sold to me by a male who worked in the industry. After about an hour of it not working, I took a half of one and thought “Okay, this should do me in REAL quick.” Well like 2.5 hours had passed and I still felt nothing. Initially I thought that I needed to blame my supplier b/c the shit was weak! One of the girls there (someone who you guys would know if I mentioned her) asked me could she have one of my pills since _____ had sold out. She specifically stated that she wanted 1/2 of one b/c whole ones always had her out of control. I agreed, gave her the half and decided that “I” would take that pill PLUS another whole one. Three pills in total. Within 10 minutes, I felt it. But I felt weird. I remember losing my breath, my heart beating out of control and I was having continuous feelings of blacking out. I remember I ran in the room and told them that I needed to go to the hospital b/c I think I may have overdone it. The girl who took my 1/2 pill said “Girl chill out, you’re just high. Go have a seat and drink another shot.” Crazy enough, I went back into the living room, sat on the couch and instantly felt myself going in and out. I felt my hands…they were cold as hell. My feet were numb and the bottom of them were blue. At this point, two girls (who I consider my babies/sisters and are NO LONGER working in the business yay) said “Yall I think we need to call an ambulance b/c something really is wrong with her.” This story is long enough…but do you know that everybody in that house, except the two girls that I now consider my sisters, literally ran to a bedroom and locked themselves in and were PISSED when the ambulance came? They said “You brought too much attention to this house.” When I went to the hospital, three police officers came in my room after they gave me ’something’ (don’t remember what it was) to clear my stomach. The cop asked my ’sisters’ to see my ID. They saw that I was from Georgia and asked why was I in Cali. “Work”…I said and left it at that. He said “Look, we did a quick run on your ID and you’re clean. Technically I could take you to jail after being released from the hospital but I wont. Just be careful and take care of yourself.” I remember being relieved like HELL that I didn’t have to go to jail. And aside from learning the lesson that drugs REALLY ARE bad, I also learned that the bitches in the industry only love you when they think that you can do something for them. If you are, in any way, bringing them money or ’staying in your lane,’ you’re good to go. And while I don’t blame ANYBODY for my mistake with doing drugs, I will say that that was one (of many) swift kicks in the ass that reminded me that I really needed to take my ass back to the east coast.

Quote me on that one.

(sorry the story is so choppy. hard shit to recall and talk about)

One of the most beneficial traits that I possess as a Cancer is my observant behavior. When I was young(er), I was considered weird for sitting in the cut and scoping people out before I agreed to deal with them. And now that I’m older, there are people who have to learn hard but fast lessons on WHY it’s good to be this way.

With me, what you see is what you get. There’s no way that I could have two sides to me like a Gemini. I’ve very upfront, I don’t hold back, I say/do things that others may find somewhat offensive but at the end of the day, I stick by who I am. There are no questions. Yes indeed, people may not LIKE that person but again, WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get).

This is why I could never wrap my mind around those who feign realness…or those that feign modesty…or ANYTHING for that matter when the truth is, they’re only a copy of what someone else already is but without that pinch of boldness. *sigh, I’m annoyed with myself because I KNOW what it is that I’m trying to say but the words aren’t quite making their way to this blog as I’d like them to.

Let me start over (I probably could’ve erased the rest, huh? haha)…I am not a ‘personality.’ I am not something that I created in effort to gain popularity, to overcome shyness, to be loved or understood…I’m me. This would include a person that some won’t care for, a hoochie, a loud mouth, an opinionated bitch, etc., etc., etc. But at the end of the day, you’ll never be able to say that you didn’t know my angle b/c I spent time faking it out. What you see is EXACTLY what you get. To be continued…

40 minutes of pure damn EVIL! Oh-My-GAWD! I hope you guys clicked on my pic to see the sweat! It was clearly no joke! The warm up was just as long as the damn exercise. He goes “Okay, we’re done warming up. Grab some water real quick cuz we’re about to get it IN!” I was like “Uh *pause* THAT wasn’t the warm up??” I was already passing the hell OUT off that little bit! Good GRIEF! My mom wants me to go work out with her this evening and I SAID I was gonna do two-a-days but shit me. We’ll see though.

PS: I love my lashes! ha!

Honey…when I tell you shit is real in the field on this one, I MEAN it! Someone sent me the link to this workout program called Insanity on Twitter. After watching THIS I knew I had to try it. MANY moons ago when I ran track in school, my coach(s) relied on interval training to prep us for meets and it worked! Anyway, watch the clip. Here are the results of my fit test:

Switch Kicks: 71
Power Jacks: 31
Power Knees: 50
Power Jumps: 21
Globe Jumps: 10
Suicide Jumps: 5
Push-Up Jacks: 8
Low Plank Oblique: 29

Sweet Jesus! One day down…59 more to go. Can I do it? We’ll see….shit.

Would you rather remain friends with someone because you chose to kept your mouth closed as you watched them spiral out of control or risk losing them b/c you expressed an opinion that they needed to hear that could potentially save their life/reputation?

Read THIS. More to come…

I was recently hit up on Twitter by a guy who ‘retweeted’ a message by a chick who was watching a special on television about the porn business. She basically stated that b/c she was “tired of making ends meet off $450″ (didn’t specify the frequency), she might go that route.

I think that the porn twinklets (remember…people who do porn could never be a star *smile) who defend the business via talk show, blog entries, various events/appearances and now, through twitter often provide a skewed representation of what it’s really all about. I just read a tweet that Toya (from Bullshit Entertainment Television’s, Tiny & Toya) wrote and it kinda goes with what I’m about to share:

People are cool as long as they can look down on you but when its time to look up at you, they don’t like it.
Yes, I know…quoting ANYTHING from anybody on BET COULD ruin my rep (LOL) but hear/read me out. I don’t care how much a woman tells you that they’re cool with working in porn. I’ve been around enough girls who worked it to know that they’re lying. Many of them tend to present themselves as oversexed beings to validate their reason for doing movies in the first place. What I found during my time in the valley is that…as long as I was content just like them, they wanted to be my best friend. But the minute I started to distance myself and voice a lot of the issues that I felt were running abound in the game, rumors started and I was suddenly a mouthy bitch. During that time in my life, I was very unhappy…I remember writing SEVERAL blogs and making several calls telling folks how happy I was but inside, I was hurting. I wanted one of my friends to ask me “What in the hell is wrong with you? What are you doing?” I can count on a hand who did. Anyway, back to them…no matter what they say, they’re not happy. But they put on this front to hide the fact that they’re afraid that if they DO let it go, they won’t be able to do anything else. THAT is fact and here are a few more for the wayward souls who even think about it:

FACT: Black girls (hell, black ‘actors’ PERIOD) are NOT paid anywhere NEAR what their ‘other’ peers are paid.
FACT: YES, people in the industry are tested more often than the average bear but bacterial infections and other things of the like are still rampant.
FACT: Many people in the industry WILL give you a fake test (and several production companies would go for it).
FACT: They do NOT test for things like herpes (I’ve even had a ‘nurse’ tell me that if they did that “more than half the industry would be out of a job”)
FACT: MANY (not ALL) “medicate” to get by.

And now a question…do you really think any of that is worth it? I get sick and tired of people believing that people in porn have it easy. As with any ‘job,’ it is absolutely not always silver and gold. But it’s glamorized because the people who work in it and run the companies want people in society to be comfortable enough with it that they turn a blind eye to the bullshit that it contains. I can’t speak on the men b/c IMO, the men who work in porn do it b/c A. they probably wouldn’t get pussy otherwise and B. they probably won’t face the same backlash as a woman would. It’s a win/win type situation for them for the most part.

I stopped debating with women who worked the industry a long time ago b/c it proved to be pointless. They have their beliefs and I most certainly have mine. I do not watch porn, I don’t talk to ANYBODY that I met while in it (except for the girls who I HELPED influence to get out and change their ways knowing everything that I know from just sitting around and lending an ear), and I’ll never allow it in my house.

I don’t judge those that choose to watch it. They weren’t in it. I don’t get ‘angry’ at those who judge me. God forgave me. I’m good. But I also feel that it would be extremely socially irresponsible of me if I didn’t at least speak my mind on the ills of the porn industry, knowing what potential pitfalls someone would open themselves up to.

To the lost soul singing the whoa-is me jam of the week, starring complaints of her $450 check…be thankful for what you have. It may not be the highly exaggerated funds that a twinklet makes but it’s a hell of a lot more than what that homeless man/woman on the street may have, way more than student that had to drop out of college this semester b/c he/she couldn’t afford housing or books and even more than the women who want to leave but just feel that they can’t. You, my friend, still have your dignity.

Think about it…

PS: before you say it, I know…hurry up and release the book.

I normally don’t even give second glances to men who aren’t black (literally…love my brown and super dark men) but this jigga here? This is Adam Rodriguez, one of the stars of Tyler Perry’s new movie, I Can Do Bad All By Myself. When I tell you that this jigga is fine? Good LAWD! I mean…damn he is sexy as shit! Don’t judge me. Instead, find me a website where I can order TWO of those (uh, boyfriend #1 and boyfriend #2). YES!

GYM: Yesterday marked the longest I had stayed up without ANY hope for sleep. I was up for over 29 hours straight without even blinking like I wanted to nap. It sucked. I did not go to the gym yesterday, said I’d go today. I don’t like putting things off but here’s the problem. Today is Wednesday. The thought of starting anything in the middle of the week seriously gives me anxiety. I’m going to TRY to go today but…Monday is looking so excellent to me right now. It’s the start of a new week and it just “seems” like “day 1.” I know I’m weird.

Anyway, you guys have a happy hump day! Don’t forget to check out the latest in Black entertainment news at Miss Jia Dot Com.

bye!

I chose not to blog about the whole situation with Tila Tequila and Shawne Merriman situation on Miss Jia dot com simply b/c I really get tired of reading about all the patterns of Hollywood. One person gets a sex tape, several of ‘em get one…one person has dirty pics “leaked,” several of them leak some…one person gets the sides of their head shaved off…everybody gets one. And the latest trend is…one chick gets mollywopped by some nigga…you fill in the rest.

I, personally, don’t know what went down between the two but what I DO know is that when I woke up to find out about the news, I read some of the comments (under the trending topics of Twitter) only to find that Shawne was being convicted before ANYBODY knew the whole story. Tila didn’t tweet about it and neither did Shawne. Later, TMZ released an ‘exclusive’ from Shawne’s people that basically stated that he didn’t choke her…he tried to keep her from leaving b/c she had been drinking. I am not siding with him and calling HER a liar, but I’m also not going to condemn him before I know what really popped off.

The thing that pisses me off most with people where domestic situations are concerned is we immediately fly off a handle, especially if it lends negativity to the MALE involved. Now, just to show that I’m not perfect…I’ve done that before too. But in the one situation that I felt compelled to speak on, there were pictures that told part of the story on what went down. In THIS case, we’re only reading words and ‘accounts.’ Not quite the same.

Sorry but I aint that much of a fan of anyone to side with them in their bullshit, be it blatant or somewhat hidden. I’m a TI fan until the day I die but that nigga was wrong in what he did. Period. People kill me allowing celebrity (be it pseudo or otherwise) to blind them to common sense and facts. When more details surface pointing one way or the other, I MAY write about it or I may not. Just depends on how much attention whoring I feel like lending to the world.

And FYI: unlike many, I don’t blog to align myself with celebrities. I blog b/c I have something to say and people either agree or disagree with it. But at the end of the day, my goal is not to align myself with celebrities so hardcore that I can no longer state MY opinion. Fuck that…if it’s that serious, I have a nice little server bill that these celebs can pay on my behalf every month. That may help in getting me to possibly see shit YOUR way.